Ask Kia (For Sound Solutions)

by | Jan 1, 2021 | January 2021, Positive Messages

Kia, I am finding myself more and more uncomfortable in the church congregation I have chosen to join. I am not sure what I should do because I don’t want to make the wrong decision.  What do you suggest I do?

First and foremost, I suggest praying and ask God to lead you in the direction He wants you to go; then retreat to a quiet place and meditate on His answer. I further suggest that you discuss your thoughts and feeling with your Pastor and be open about your discomfort.  God will surely make clear what His Will is for you.

I am a nineteen-year-old who is being pursued by a man more than twice my age. He appears to be a good person with good intentions, but I’m really skeptical about responding to his advances.  He has given me several nice gifts, and I feel bad about not being comfortable with taking the relationship any further.  I need some sound advice about what I should do.

I suggest you listen to your conscience for it is the window to your soul through which God speaks to you. There is a reason you’re not feeling comfortable with this man.  It does not mean he is not a good man; but because he is a good man does not mean he is the right or appropriate man for you.  The age difference may very well be a discerning factor.  I further suggest that you not accept any more gifts from him in that your acceptance may very well be giving him the wrong message.  Again, I suggest that you listen and follow you conscience.

Kia, can you tell me why you think some people seem to have no respect for the property of others? I am so frustrated with having to pick up fast-food wrappers and other trash that people seem to have no conscience about throwing in my front yard.  What can I do to stop them from doing this?

Unfortunately, there is little, and perhaps nothing you can do to control the negative behaviors of others. Even though you probably have no idea who those people are, God knows, and it will not hurt if you ask Him to change the hearts and behaviors of those who disrespect the lives and property of others.  In the meantime, you might choose to view your picking up their trash as additional exercise as well as taking care of your property. That way you disallow others to steal your joy; and avoid the anger and frustration you feel around the disrespectful actions of others.

Do YOU have a question for Kia? She’d be happy to accept questions. They can be emailed to with the subject line ASK KIA.

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