Q. Kia how can I tell my best friend that her boyfriend is cheating on her? I saw him with another girl, and I’m really upset that he is not being up front and honest with my friend.
A. I suggest you examine yourself and your motives for wanting to tell your friend something that would definitely hurt her; something that you are not fully aware of the circumstances; and something that is not beneficial to anyone for you to share; and finally, something that is not your responsibility to make known to your friend. More than likely whatever is done in dark will eventually come to light, and totally without your help.
Q. I am engaged to be married to my high school sweetheart whose mother neither likes me nor approves of her son marrying me. How do I convince his mother that I love her son and will make him a particularly good wife? He is convinced that she will grow to like me and accept our marriage, but I’m not sure that will be the case. I need to know what I can say or do to assure her that I will do everything in my power to make her son happy.
A. First and foremost, you must accept the fact that you can do nothing to make your fiancée’s mother like you. That’s something that only she can choose to do. I suggest you focus on your relationship with your fiancé and choose not to concern yourself with what others think or feel about your relationship. And remember, you’re not marrying his mother, and if her son is happy, and she wants what is best for him, then she will have no basis for unacceptance of his choice of whom to marry.
Q. Kia I am feeling more and more depressed due to being isolated and unable to move about freely as I did before this Covid 19 problem. What can I do to keep from falling deeper into depression and even anger at not being free to go and come as I please?
A. Acceptance of the things you cannot change and the courage to change the things you can, is essential to your mental and emotional health. I suggest you take an open and honest personal inventory of what you can do to improve your outlook during this time of dealing with a potentially deadly situation over which you have no control. Think less about what you CAN’T do, and more about what you CAN do. (Reading, computer interactions, watching your favorite movies, exercising, telephone conversations, etc. are just a few ways you can utilize your time) Quiet time with God is always time well spent. I suggest you pray and ask God to lead and guide you in the direction He would have you go. You’ll be pleasantly surprised at how He can show ways to eliminate your anxiety and keep you safe at the same time.
Do YOU have a question for Kia? She’d be happy to accept questions. They can be emailed to lailai1044@comcast.net with the subject line ASK KIA.
