Ask Kia (For Sound Solutions)

by | Dec 1, 2021 | December 2021, Positive Messages

Q. Kia, how can I avoid the sadness that seems to come over me every year during what is supposed to be the happiest time of the year? For some reason I find it hard ‘to be jolly’ when there is so much sadness all around me. What can I do to keep from feeling so sad?

A. Know that you are not alone in what is a struggle for many people. The solution to this common problem is simple yet complicating due to our human nature. (Which God fully understands) There are a number of things you can do to overcome and defeat this attack of the enemy. The primary things you can do are 1) Choose to stay focused on Jesus and how good and wonderful He is. 2) Count your blessings and thank God for all He has done for you personally. 3) Start a forty day fast from the news and social media. 4) Thank and praise God throughout every day for who He is, and all He has done for you.

I am thoroughly convinced that if you commit to all the above suggestions, you will discover and embrace the fullness of God’s Love, Joy and Peace throughout the holiday season. God Bless and keep you in His care.

Q. I am saddened by the very recent loss of a dear friend. She passed away after an illness that took away her appetite and ability to digest food. My friend lived many miles away and I’m feeling a tinge of guilt with the consideration of not traveling to attend her home-going service. What can I do to feel better about the thought of not going to my friend’s funeral?

A. Whether or not you attend your friend’s funeral in no way determines your love for her. I suggest that you ask God to comfort and strengthen you in the bereavement of your friend. And should you decide not to attend her home-going; remind yourself that although you will not be there physically, you will indeed be there spiritually. Know that outer appearances are seen and acknowledged by man; but God sees and knows your heart. The love and compassion you feel for your friend is within your heart, therefore, you need not feel guilty should you not attend your friend’s funeral.

Q. Kia, it bothers me that someone very close and dear to me often appears uninterested when I’m motivated to share with her what I’m experiencing in my relationship and walk with God. After an in depth sharing of what God had placed in my heart, she very lackadaisically responded that she had to go and empty her trash. I felt ignored and sad that she appeared uninterested in my excitement about the goodness of God. How can I avoid these very frequent interactions and still maintain a cordial relationship with my loved one?

A. I am convinced that it is far better for our emotional and mental and spiritual health to accept the things we can change, change the things we can, and pray for the wisdom to know the difference. You may discover it will be more to your advantage and wellbeing to carefully choose with whom you share your joy and excitement based on your observation and awareness of who they are in Christ. Choose not to judge those who are not receptive; but choose to share your joy with those who demonstrate, express, and openly share your joy.

Do YOU have a question for Kia? She’d be happy to accept questions. They can be emailed to with the subject line ASK KIA.

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