Q. Kia, why do you think it is that people just can’t seem to love and care about one another, and find it hard just to be kind to everyone? Even in church I have witnessed people who appear to find it hard just to speak to another person. What can I do to make a difference?
A. Unfortunately, there are still many people who are not in touch with the truth that Love conquers all. (Because our God is Love). The devil is indeed real, and there are many who are deceived by him who spreads hatred and evil. What you can do is stand firm, hold onto, and obey the teachings of our Lord and Savior, who has commanded us to love our neighbor as we love ourselves. Don’t become discouraged because the devil is already defeated and in God’s perfect timing he will no longer exist. I also suggest that you stay focused on Jesus and how wonderful He is rather than what is happening in the world today. God bless you,
Q. How can I tell my boyfriend that I no longer want to be in the relationship without hurting him?
A. It’s impossible for you to determine or control the feelings and reactions of anyone other than yourself. (And even that is difficult and impossible without intervention and help from God). I suggest that you sit down with your boyfriend and share your feelings openly and honestly with a compassionate spirit. And be sure this interaction is preceded by prayer and direction from God.
Q. What can I do to help my girlfriend who finds it hard to accept the truth even when it is staring her in the face? She has caught her husband in one extramarital affair after another for nearly three years now. She keeps believing that the last time will be the last time he cheats on her; but it keeps happening over and over again. She cries to me about it but won’t take action to remove herself from all the emotional pain and trauma she suffers every time she catches him cheating. She needs help, and I’m lost for what I can do to help her.
A. The most important and vital thing you can do for your friend is to keep her in prayer; asking God to lead, guide, and strengthen her in the way He wants her to go. In addition to that, what you can do to help your friend is to be a silent listener and keep reassuring her of your love and genuine friendship by spending quality time with her and initiating fun things that the two of you enjoy together.
Do YOU have a question for Kia? She’d be happy to accept questions. They can be emailed to lailai1044@comcast.net with the subject line ASK KIA.