Q. Kia, I see that my dear friend is repeatedly doing things that will come back to haunt her. She clearly ignores my warnings and advice because she thinks she’s justified in continuing her behaviors. How can I convince her that there is so much truth in the old saying that we reap what we sow?
A. Unfortunately, it is impossible for us to help those who either don’t want our help, or those who don’t recognize the need for help. And it is impossible to fix something that we don’t feel or see is broken. Your friend, unfortunately, is going to have to learn the hard way. Your only and best alternative is to pray for her. Ask God to lead her in the direction He wants her to go, and trust that He is willing and able to do all things. “Let go and let God” is my advice to you.
Q. Why is it Kia that I am never attracted to those males to whom I should be attracted? My girlfriend says it’s because I seem to like the ‘bad boys’ instead of the ‘church boys.’ I really don’t know what she means by that, but it seems to happen every time I meet someone new. What do you think I’m doing wrong? I would love to be in a mutually satisfying relationship.
A. I suggest you take a personal inventory of what it is you’re looking for in an interpersonal relationship. Define what it is you’re seeking, and what you’re willing to give. And, above all, I suggest you seek direction from God. It is certain that God knows us better than we know ourselves. Ask Him to help you to be the person He wants you to be, and to place His choice of people in your life. You’ll be amazed at what God can do, as well as how and when he does it.
Q. Kia, I am so upset with our judicial system. It is far from JUST. Some people get away clean when others are severely punished. I find myself feeling more and more depressed by what is happening in the news. I’m disgusted with how the system favors people who are of a certain race or economic status. How can I best cope with all the unfairness that I’m seeing every day in the news?
A. It is certain that man’s view and practice of justice is quite far from what is godly. Nonetheless, it is also certain that God’s justice will prevail. We must be patient and wait on the Lord with assurance and confidence that He is in full control no matter what; and in His perfect timing, justice will prevail. In the meantime, I suggest you commit to fasting from the news for a period. You will surely feel a significant decrease in anxiety and frustration if the time you’ve been watching the news is spent indulging in activities that you enjoy and allow you to love and laugh. (Reading and meditating on God’s Word is a Sure Cure for anxiety and depression.) I suggest you try it. God Bless.
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