Q. Kia, I’m having trouble accepting my son’s new girlfriend. Her mother and I attended high school together and were always at odds with one another. How can I make my son understand that his relationship with this girl will more than likely be toxic, and his mother and I would probably never be able to get along?
A. I suggest you avoid sharing any negative information regarding your past relationships with your son. I further suggest that you pray and ask God to give you a heart of forgiveness and decide to let go of the past and focus on your present-day blessings. A phone call to your son’s girlfriend’s mother with a genuine desire to mend fences and rejoice in your children’s happiness will more than likely surprise and bless you. An invitation to have lunch together would be a particularly good start in developing a godly relationship. I encourage you to do it today.
Q. I get so frustrated with the changing of time of day. I hate having to go through the house, not to mention the car, and reset all the clocks. Springing forward and falling back makes no sense to me. How can I better cope with what I feel is a stupid and meaningless tradition without letting it get the best of me every time it happens?
A. It is certain that throughout our lives we will be faced with various situations and circumstances with which we disagree or simply dislike. I suggest you take an open and honest inventory of what is important and worth your time and consideration. Then make a firm decision to accept the things you have no power to change; change the things you can; and pray for the wisdom to know the difference. You will find that no matter what happens, God will give you peace if you believe and trust that He is in full control of everything. I suggest you ‘Let go and let God.’
Q. Kia, why do people hate each other so much? I see people hate people they don’t even know. Why can’t we just all get along?
A. Unfortunately, everyone does not know and accept God, our Creator, our Savior, and the source of our being; nor live according to His Word, which is the Bible. Know that hatred is a taught and learned belief and behavior. Nobody is born with hatred; it is an unfortunate feeling that is taught by others. We can only control ourselves, not the beliefs or behaviors of others. What we can do is live our lives in such a way that we reflect the ways of our Lord and Savior Jesus Christ, who is Himself LOVE. God encourages us to love our neighbors as ourselves. And our neighbors are all people regardless of race, creed, or color. God made us all, and He loves us all the same. So, what you can do is; obey God’s command and as much as depends on you, let there be LOVE.
Do YOU have a question for Kia? She’d be happy to accept questions. They can be emailed to lailai1044@comcast.net with the subject line ASK KIA.
