Q. Kia, why is it that some people seem to hate others for no apparent reason other than physical and/or economic differences? How can we initiate change in this unfortunate reality?
A. Love is the answer to every trial and trouble of the world. Jesus is Love, and those who believe in Him, and imitate His ways are not vulnerable to the deceptions of the devil; whose goal is to destroy us. We are not born with the spirit of hatred. It is a taught and learned behavior. We are commanded by our Lord and Savior Jesus Christ to Love one another, be kind to one another, and live together in Peace and Harmony. Therefore, as much as depends on us, individually, we must initiate peace and love. When we treat others as we want to be treated ourselves, hatred would no longer exist. To be a Peacemaker is pleasing to our God and Creator; and He blesses those who promote Peace and Love. We can initiate change by asking God to fill us with the Fruit of His Spirit, which is Love, Joy, Peace, Kindness, Patience, Gentleness, Goodness, Faithfulness, and Self-control; then committing ourselves to living according to our Father’s Holy Will.
Q. How can I help my friend who thinks it’s okay to use mood altering drugs for the purpose of relaxing and escaping her problems? She doesn’t think there’s anything wrong with drinking alcohol and smoking marijuana daily because she still manages to report to work, even though she admits that she is having problems getting her job done to the satisfaction of her supervisor, she attributes it all to what she states to be that her supervisor just doesn’t like her.
A. Unfortunately, it is very difficult, and sometimes impossible, to help those who do not recognize nor admit the need for help. First and foremost, I suggest you pray for God to open the eyes of your friend to the apparent reality of her addiction. You can express your concern for her well-being and suggest she seek counseling to avoid the possibilities of negative consequences in her life such as health as well as employment issues. Continue to keep your friend in prayer…God hears and answers.
Q. Kia, my husband and I just don’t seem to be able to have the fun and laughter we enjoyed in the beginning of our twenty-year marriage. What can I do to restore those good times?
A. With very little insight into the nature of your concerns, I can only suggest that you prepare a quiet evening, alone, with your husband. Prepare his favorite meal and afterwards invite him to join you for a quiet conversation about your concerns without any accusations, but rather expressions of love and kindness. You might even suggest that the two of you get away for a quiet weekend together and enjoy the beauty of God’s nature.
Do YOU have a question for Kia? She’d be happy to accept questions. They can be emailed to lailai1044@comcast.net with the subject line ASK KIA.
