Q. I’ve had the misfortune of being scammed several times by people who appeared reputable and trustworthy until it was too late and I found them to be cheaters and liars with only one motive, which is to rob and steal from whoever they can deceive. I don’t want to have a suspicious mind and feel I can’t trust people in general. What can I do to guard against being taken advantage of by people who appear to be honest but are far from it?
A. First, I suggest that you accept the reality that not everyone is a believer and follower of God’s Word, which tells us not to steal; and to treat others as we want to be treated. You can guard against being victimized by deceptive people by seeking information regarding their character and reputation before committing yourself to any social or business interactions with them. Another option before committing to any business contracts is to get second and even third opinions on the costs of service.
Q. I am thankful and blessed to be a lender and not a borrower. Unfortunately, however, I’m finding that there are some people who borrow with no apparent intentions to repay the loan. I’m reluctant to insist on repayment from those who I love and consider to be friends. How can I ask, or even insist that they live up to their promise to repay their loans?
A. It’s difficult, and perhaps impossible for you to control the dignity, integrity, and/or commitment of others. There are legal steps you can take should you feel the need to do so. I suggest, however, that you take an open and honest inventory of your apparent vulnerability in your lending practices. There is absolutely nothing disloyal or wrong with the word ‘No.’ I suggest you take time and scrutinize the likelihood of your receiving repayment prior to making any further loans.
Q. Kia, why do you think it’s so hard for some people to be kind? I’m finding myself irritated when people refuse to say thank you when I do something nice for them or help them in some way. How can I not feel a touch of anger when this happens?
A. Kindness is the Fruit of our Lord and Savior’s Spirit. Being kind reflects Jesus living in your heart. You can avoid feeling ‘a touch of anger’ when you show kindness to others by being kind with no expectations of receiving kindness in return. Real love is unconditional and has no expectations. Let your motive for being kind be to please God and not man.
Do YOU have a question for Kia? She’d be happy to accept questions. They can be emailed to lailai1044@comcast.net with the subject line ASK KIA.
